My View

From my point of view, it is such a present topic and issue for many young people. Recently, experts and influencers have been trying to educate people and point out to a self love, self evaluation, and knowing your own worth. Even though consequences of presenting a certain body image by the social media are still visible. Between the main consequences we can include an inferiority, a self harm, using of prohibited substances, or mental health issues such as an anorexia or bulimia.

How to realize and embrace your own unique self?

Conditional love says: I will love under certain conditions. Unconditional love says: I love! And that is all. Unconditional love is very closely related to the ability to accept oneself. One of the biggest mistake we face in our life is a conviction that someone has to appreciate us. That someone has to convince us that we deserve to be loved. That we have to behave or look in a certain way to deserve love or to be worthy of something. That we have to look for a love everywhere else but not in ourselves. We often try to act in order to be liked by our environment, instead of being a true manifestation of ourselves, and to appreciate it. The pressure on us to meet certain "norms" is pressing on us. We are afraid that we will not be accepted or we will be a target of a ridicule and gossiping. We need to realize that an unconditional love does not mean to meet opinions of others and to fulfill trends and norms.

In order not to doubt about your value and not to fall into the social media trend you need to experience an unconditional love to yourself. Throughout my own journey I have observed a few important things I has been trying to get rid of. A fear that we will not be loved by others anymore. That we will not be accepted in general. Often we vilify ourselves as we are stupid and worthless when something does not go as planned, insted of learn from it and grow thanks to it. Internally, we set commands and prohibitions. It may block us in our natural and spontaneous action so that we do not act as we feel, but rather according to what is expected from us. There may be thoughts that we do not deserve something. That we are not "good enough." These ideas stem from feelings of inferiority. We are very critical to ourselves and we are still looking for some mistakes. We are not happy with ourselves, with our bodies, with who we are and how we look. We put inadequate demands on ourselves. We do not believe to and underestimate our strengths. Last but not least, we are afraid of the future.

It takes time and practice step by step to fully embrace and be in a harmony with yourfelf. To learn to listen your gut voice. To realize your value. To respect yourself and accept others.